M.A. Quality Education
Speed walking or coloring, home DIY’s or yardening (my word for the mix of gardening and yard work), vegetarian cooking or riding backside on my husband’s Goldwing, I enjoy the simple gifts of life. Right now, I am happily married to the man who shares our adventurous life of 40 years. Two magnificent adult children and two powerfully unique granddaughters bless my life. The sandwich generation is my tag, loving both “Olders” and “Littles” on each side.
I have taught grades 1 through 12 over the course of 20 years and absolutely thrive in a creative classroom environment. With training in speech and a Masters in Education, my students have been among my greatest instructors; teaching me that what matters most is connection and emotional safety. My personal mission is to validate the right for all people in my sphere of influence to experience their potential. Now as a grief educator, I am humbled and in awe when those I encounter move from ignorance and suffering towards knowledge, compassion, healing and restoration. Here is the story behind Comfort for the Day . . .
Dawson Tesla Nicola, named after his father and grandfather, was our beautiful, blond, blue-eyed gentle little guy. The news of his illness came in the midst of a major move from Alaska to Montana. This period of our lives found us homeless, jobless, without insurance, with second child and a very ill first-born. Leukemia knocked on the door our son’s body at age 2. At 3 ½, Leukemia walked out with our little guy in Its icy cold grip of death.
The ache in my body, mind, and heart was overwhelming. Was there any comfort for the relentless, chaffing pain? Where could I go for relief that would help heal my broken heart? People in pain can become desperate. I began to spill out my pain in heart wrenching words to God, written in a spiral note-book. Soon I discovered that the process of thoughts rushing from my mind, flowing down my shoulder and arm, finally escaping through my fingers holding the pen, was in fact an experience of profound solace. Daily I accessed this method of emotional pain relief. Sometimes, I needed to write more than once a day, and I did.
I also searched for hope, healing, and relief in the Bible. I discovered comfort in so many places of Scripture that I couldn’t keep it all in my foggy bereaved mind. Daily I poured out my pain on paper, adding the messages of comfort and encouragement that can from the Word of God. As I copied them from the pages of my Bible into my note-book, I felt not only a relief from my pain, but hope and courage to continue my grieving work. With renewed assurances that my God understood the suffering and was committed to being with me through it, I chose to keep living through the seasons of my grief.
Could I keep this experience to myself? Not at all . . .
Therefore, Comfort for the Day has come to you. It is both the title of our book and my website. My mission is to offer one of the best healing tools for those who grieve. The book, Comfort for the Day, is a way of bringing personalized healing for the reader that endures forever. It becomes the reader’s story of how God is faithful to heal your broken heart. Comfort for the Day is a truly useful book that friends, ministries, businesses, and care providers will be confident giving to the bereaved. Ordering your book directly from CfD means you receive a higher quality paper and a better binding than if you order elsewhere online.
The Web Site
As you explore the web site, Comfort for the Day, you will find short articles (blogs) written just for those who mourn and another category for those who want to learn how to better comfort the grieving. Through both of these blog categories, it is my desire that the grieving process will be better understood by those who grieve and better supported by those who care about the grieving.
As I experienced healing from my loss, I looked for ways to raise awareness about bereavement. In addition to authoring my book, Comfort for the Day, I began speaking on the topic of Healthy Grieving and Becoming Skillful Comforters. Public speaking is a natural gift, entrusted by God. Add to that a background as a teacher, and I come to your group prepared to present an engaging, interactive and life changing experience. Whether I present a stand alone presentation, a series of workshops, or sermon messages, you will be encouraged to step into the pain of others and know you have the grace of God to bring comfort for those who need it most.
Attendee Reactions to CFD Workshops
“Great workshop. I liked the time in breakout session to practice listening and story telling.” Boise ID
“I have never attended anything like this. I found it very helpful.” Missoula MT
I discovered the art of listening and the importance that when I do listen, not to make it about me.” Auburn CA
“Great workshop! The most useful part was the exercise where we built a care plan for a loss.” Yakima WA
“If you want to help a grieving friend, but aren’t quite sure how, this workshop is the place to be.” Carmichael CA
2017 Speaking Schedule
February 4 & 5 Cloverdale SDA Church, Boise Idaho
February 10 & 11 Ukiah SDA Church, Ukiah CA
February 17 & 18 Paradise SDA Church, Paradise CA
July Camp Agape Children’s Bereavement Camp TX
August 1 – 4 Lake Tahoe SDA Camp Meeting, Lake Tahoe CA
Recently, I have completed my certification for Grief Coaching. This type of sacred work is deeply satisfying for me as I have the privilege of stepping into the vulnerable space of someone’s bereavement for the purpose of coaching them through what I call, “Grief Land.” Each one travels through “Grief Land” on their own unique path. However, those who have gone on before often leave signposts to help direct other travelers. I believe that no one should travel this dark and overwhelming path alone. As a coach, it is my goal to guide my clients towards healing and completion of unresolved aspects of their relationship with their deceased loved one.